The birds are intimately tied to the cycles of the earth – The life that comes from the Creator. You, too, are a part of the stream of life. And yet you resist, grasp, worry and second-guess – All in an effort to control your fear of not having enough or not being enough.
Have you ever thought of being “out of control” as a good thing? Fear and anxiety can keep us up wrapped up pretty tight. My fearful younger self worked very hard to bring order into our family life by anticipating any possible problem and controlling every detail. This was my way of keeping us allContinue reading “33. Out of Control”
Learning to have an open heart, to not be defensive, is an on-going, day by day challenge. Fear is not banished once and for all, but it does become more manageable and less frightening. I am learning to not be afraid of fear. I can now look at it: “Fear is happening” (rather than “IContinue reading “32. Open Your Heart”
Here is the alternative to a guarded heart – Vulnerability. Exposure is the price of freedom. A guarded heart is a heart imprisoned. An exposed heart is free. Think of the Grinch: A guarded heart is clenched and shrinking. Fear begets fear. An exposed heart is open, relaxed and growing. Love begets love. An exposedContinue reading “31. The Price of Freedom”
“Do you prefer to grow up and relate to life directly, or do you choose to live and die in fear?” (Eckhart Tolle) When I read these words, I took it on as a personal challenge: “Do I prefer to grow up and relate to life directly, or do I choose to live and die in fear?”Continue reading “26. The Warrior”
Sometimes the hardest thing to do is nothing at all. Refrain. “Stay calm, do nothing, feeling the feelings, see what happens.” (Adapted quote from Camille’s dad) When unpleasant feelings come our way, we are driven to move away from those feelings by whatever means necessary. We are programmed that way; to our primitive brains it makesContinue reading “19. Feel the Feelings”
This was my version of a panic attack. Fear of pain, leading to pain and more fear until my mind was hijacked by my own emotions, my autonomic nervous system, and an almost irresistible urge to Fight or Flight! The cool stream of a conscious deep breath could have created a space, and a bitContinue reading “17. Emotions Gone Wild”