This has been a difficult and important lesson for me. Making this sketch really helped me to actually see how futile my resistance was. When I imagined my resistance as a wall of bricks I was pushing against I was able to understand how much energy I was wasting while I pushed back against Life.
How many times have I said or thought, “This should not be happening!”? (Hint: the word “should” is often a signal that there is something not quite right.)
Acceptance and surrender are certainly words that are easily said and not so easily done. They require exposure and vulnerability, which makes them scary. “It is what it is”, has become a glib auto-response they people throw out when they don’t know what else to say. However, when you say it with acceptance rather than defeat, it is actually rather profound and important. Allowing Life to flow through us rather than battering against our wall of resistance is the path to peace.
This is an aspirational goal is not fully achievable for most of us humans. That’s why I love these encouraging words from Eckhart Tolle:
Forgive yourself for not being at peace.
Fully accepting non-peace will take your into peace.